I pray that you don’t get bored by my recent posts about my Indonesia 1.5 group. This is another one that is somehow related to it. Bear with me, kind readers… 🙂
In my dream last night, my mother came to me and asked me, “Why do you plan to help other people when you haven’t done enough to help your own family ?”. Oh, don’t get me wrong. My mom is a person with a heart of gold, and will only ask such questions in dreams. But I digress. This post is a quick attempt to tackle that question which I feel will sooner or later be actually asked by certain parties in my real life.
I have no intention to bore you with repeating my trials and tribulations. So first and foremost, let it be just said here that by living with HIV, I am already skating on thin ice, – I might as well dance on it then. That is what I personally believe. That was the first thing that sparked the idea when I started this.
Secondly, remember that classic saying that says that you must help yourself first before you help others ? Guess what ? I ask this question in response : Why not challenge it ? Why not turn it the other way around ? What’s wrong with this :
Help others to help yourself ?
Have you ever considered it that way ?
And thirdly, – I saw too many examples of great minds gone wasted. I’m talking of a bright, intellectual man who died with a lot of riches as his only life achievement. At one time, I notice that such man’s ( one of my friend’s father, – name of whom I can’t mention here ) burial was attended by 500 people. Sadly, my friend admitted that most of them was only there because they wanted to be recognized as friends of the late successful businessman.
I can’t judge him of course, but in a sense, it sort of told me that it’s a classic portrayal of our society in our country. Achievements are almost always measured by what you have and acquired. Whether it’s riches, intellects or something else is personal preference. It’s very rare that you meet someone who measure how successful his life is by what he gives. If you ask me, at the end of the day, I want to be that person. I want it that when I die, there may be only 5 people beside my family who attends the ceremony, but they may well say with a smile that I made a difference in their lives.
I guess that’s pretty much it. Forgive these rather incoherent ramblings, but those are my thoughts when I started the group. I could start one who discuss things I like the most, – or a writer group; but I chose to consciously started one that gives back. For I have difficulty in believing that life is all about what I gain. I’m gonna leave you with that
Have a good day….