The Hand That Feeds

29 Oct

To me, November is a month that underlines the importance of a lasting relationship. My parents have their anniversary at the 3rd, while me and my wife have ours eight days later. Every time it gets to this time of the year, I cannot help but stop what I am doing, close my eyes, and pray that I will make my marriage last as long as I can. Oh, it’s not that we are having some marital problems or something. It’s just that I don’t know how much longer I have to live.

What I want to talk about is my parents’ marriage. They are still there, standing strong after about 35 years of marriage. It has been bumpy, – even bruising at some points. Yet they refuse to let go of each other and holding steadfastly to their other halves instead. This echoes the important trait which sadly is seen less and less nowadays : perseverance.

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I do not have any right to elaborate on details on their trials and tribulations over the years. It will always be their authoritative decision about what is free to share and what is not. What I can tell you is their difficult experience with me as a young man.

My life was indeed unusual. To cite a few examples, I struggled with addiction in the past, have several troubles with the authority, and almost died more than three times. I was flirting with the devil himself. As I grow older, it became easy for me to imagine that an ordinary parent would at least consider to disown such insolent son. But mine is anything but ordinary.

This short post is then a dedication for them. In this anniversary of theirs, let it be known to world that I bow my head down in respect. I am not doing it to a long-suffering couple. I am not doing it to an everlasting love. I am doing it to a pair of fighter who knows no surrender. To a pair of hands that fed us the children come good or bad times. I love you, Mom and Dad… !

P.S. : This post was inspired by a song of Nine Inch Nails’ “The Hand That Feeds”. I am tagging Nindya and Leonnie FM to write on any topic from the list, you both know what to do ( see my previous post )

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14 Responses to “The Hand That Feeds”

  1. LeonnieFM October 31, 2008 at 3:15 am #

    http://leonniefm.com/?p=61 you tagged me, I post!

    “Should I Stay or Should I Go”

  2. LeonnieFM October 31, 2008 at 3:15 am #

    http://leonniefm.com/?p=61 you tagged me, I post!

    “Should I Stay or Should I Go”

  3. kata dia November 3, 2008 at 11:35 am #

    hello… found you from treespotter’s. I like what I’ve read so far. Will come back for more. 🙂

  4. kata dia November 3, 2008 at 11:35 am #

    hello… found you from treespotter’s. I like what I’ve read so far. Will come back for more. 🙂

  5. unquote November 3, 2008 at 11:53 am #

    Oh, hi @kata dia … The pleasure is mine 🙂

  6. unquote November 3, 2008 at 11:53 am #

    Oh, hi @kata dia … The pleasure is mine 🙂

  7. atri November 6, 2008 at 1:06 pm #

    Fingers crossed then!

  8. atri November 6, 2008 at 1:06 pm #

    Fingers crossed then!

  9. treespotter November 30, 2008 at 1:06 am #

    sweet post. I’ve an uncle, been married for some 40 years plus. Sometimes i like to go and see them just to see how they managed to do that 🙂 I’ve problems keeping relationships beyond 3 months (divorced once).

    ah well… best wishes to you two for the years ahead.

  10. treespotter November 30, 2008 at 1:06 am #

    sweet post. I’ve an uncle, been married for some 40 years plus. Sometimes i like to go and see them just to see how they managed to do that 🙂 I’ve problems keeping relationships beyond 3 months (divorced once).

    ah well… best wishes to you two for the years ahead.

  11. caroline December 4, 2008 at 2:13 am #

    “…It’s just that I don’t know how much longer I have to live.”

    nobody knows how much longer they have to live…
    you are very lucky coz you realize the fact that people don’t have forever in their life.
    so you will live your life wisely and do your best like there’s no tomorrow.

    salut banget sama kedua orang tua lo yang bertahan dalam perjuangan mereka dan akhirnya menang!

    happy belated anniversary!

  12. caroline December 4, 2008 at 2:13 am #

    “…It’s just that I don’t know how much longer I have to live.”

    nobody knows how much longer they have to live…
    you are very lucky coz you realize the fact that people don’t have forever in their life.
    so you will live your life wisely and do your best like there’s no tomorrow.

    salut banget sama kedua orang tua lo yang bertahan dalam perjuangan mereka dan akhirnya menang!

    happy belated anniversary!

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